Relationship Tips
Tips for success in your relationship
- In a relationship it’s different because it’s a marriage of two people in love and living together with commitments. No relationship is perfect. There are no exams to take or pass.
I believe from the word go you must agree on what you both want from your relationship.
If you can carve out half an hour a night, or once a month, for both of you to spend quality time together. - A good relationship is built on compromise, security and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
- Communication is more important than anything else in a relationship. It’s the first thing before anything else, understanding each other by talking to one another, maybe dirty talking. Once you have communication, you are half way their.
- Keeping your independence and dependence in a balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him or her. But don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
- Make him, or her, appreciate you by always remaining attractive when you can.
- Teach him or her, preferably early in your relationship how to give you a fail safe orgasm. Your partner cannot guess you need to tell him or her. If you don’t know find out.
- A loving smile goes a long way in a relationship.
- Remember if something is bothering you, tell your partner, don’t hold back because it never works not communicating. Some men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Tell him, or her, the problem and ask him, or her, to find the answer if they can.
- Punishing your partner never works. It’s better to give him or her a hard time, try to judge the mood of the situation and be careful not to escalate it.
- Money is the cause of some conflict. For your relationship to work, you need to address your finances and work out a budget.
- If your domestic work is not divided from the start of your relationship, it will cause a problem in it. Talk it through with your partner, share the work.
- With children in a relationship e.g. marriage. He or she should both spend quality time with their children, could be baby sitting, feeding, nappy changing etc… It’s not a job for the mother only. I do my fair share.
- Sort out your sex life. If sex starts to go downhill, none at all, over a week, don’t just accept it. As soon as you notice a slide, question why and then work at bringing the passion back.
- Don’t assume you won’t be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is. You need to learn to resist. If you stray don’t feel it spells the end of your relationship. Most couples recover particularly from a one night stand and often find that rooting out the cause of the affair helps them to get even closer. So, you need to learn to resist temptation. But don’t think that an affair is the end of everything.
- Remember if you are bored in a relationship you must ask yourself what the cause is and find out what the solution is to solve this boredom. Learn not to say anything you won’t want to be said back to you.
- Learn to accept the things that won’t change in your partners' characteristics and are there for life.
- Sometimes you maybe influenced by your divorced friends who give you the wrong advice. Always remember you must access your relationship yourself.
- Learn to forgive and if you can’t forgive your partner for example cheating, tell him or her. End the relationship, if you have kids, let him do his fair share of fatherhood. This also means having the kids. Also remember end your relationship on a good note, it helps you in rebuilding your own future relationship.
- Realise that over the years you will both change, so even if you think you understand your partner, or believe you have agreements sorted out, check regularly at least once a year that you or your partner haven’t changed your mind.
- Sometimes you might need counselling. It can turn a bad relationship around. Even if you are shy of the word counselling, believe it or not it’s better than talking to your friends or mother about personal things at times, depending on if your mother hates or dislikes your partner. I suggest you see a counsellor for professional advice.
